You come home from a long day at work. Take a shower, do the hair, throw on a little make-up, put on an outfit that isn’t doing too much, jump in the car and drive to what could be an amazing date.
You get to the restaurant, walk in and there he is. You get those nervous butterflies into formation and walk towards him. As you walk up his eyes start to bug out and he is forming his lips to say something that is sure to knock your socks off. Here it comes…3, 2, 1...
DAMN YOU’RE TALL! And wait. It gets better. He raises up on his tippy toes just to drive the point home.
Yes my friends. This is the life of tall dating.
We have to put up with many kinds of ridiculous dates. Including but not limited to:
1) The man who wants to date us for our genes. He doesn’t want us. He wants some tall babies that make it to the League and take care of him. Who pre-plans to use their child for their talent and money? This guy does. And he usually does so while having the worst breath possible.
2) The man with a tall fetish. He loves everything tall about us. I won’t get into the nasty particulars but he is obsessed with our vertical gift. He doesn’t like us as a person. He simply likes the tall and that’s all.
3) The undecided man. He thinks he can handle the height but clearly it bothers him because he takes every moment he can to remind you that you are tall. It comes up in every aspect of the conversation and even though he swears he is fine with it, he just can’t let it go.
So after we weed through these false pretenses, we then throw our own expectations in the mix. I for one was completely guilty of this. My requirement list was so long that there was simply no man on earth that could fill it. I had created an impossible image of a man in my head and of course he was taller than me.
Now ladies, I am not saying that you have to throw all of your expectations out the window. You must not settle. Point, blank, period. BUT to put expectations like height on whomever you date is simply blocking a whole segment of men that could be the one (or preparing you for the one). In my humble opinion, I have learned over time that there are WAY more important things to be concerned with then if you can rock a mean heel and still be shorter than him. At the end of the day, a confident man, no matter what his literal height, can be the tallest man in the world.
Since my revelation, I have dated men who were shorter than me (and yes, I wore heels to every date because this is what I do). To my surprise, it was only uncomfortable if they made it uncomfortable. Am I dating them now? Nope. But it was because it simply didn’t work out, not because of the height difference alone.
I say all of that to say this. Our tall adventures in dating are hard enough without our self-imposed barriers and road blocks. Opening up to all possibilities gives you a higher percentage of meeting the one you simply can’t be without. At the end of the day, God picks him out for you anyways so why not have faith in His choice and lift anything that would stop you from seeing who he is?
I have absolutely no idea who will find me, but I do know this; no matter what his height he will pursue me and through the man he is, not the height he is, I will know that he is the one. Side note: please notice that I said HE will pursue ME. We are never to chase. That is not our job and never will be. If he wants you, he will pursue you. If he doesn’t, he won’t. It’s that simple.
So there you go, my view on our tall adventures in dating. I am dying to know what you think…go!