Picture it. I’m walking to lunch with my friend Sabrina and this man comes up to us with that look. You know the one that people have when they are about to unleash every tall question in the world.
So I try the pre-emptive strike. Before he can even form his mouth the say a question I say 6’6”. Usually that will stun them and make them incapable of asking anymore questions but unfortunately this man was too strong for my tactics.
He asks 'why you ain’t playing basketball and dunking on people?' followed by 3 more idiotic questions.
After contemplating on merely asking him 'why you ain’t using correct grammar?' I then said (well it was actually more of a stern yell), 'why aren’t you asking me if I am a lawyer, a doctor or any other of the millions of occupations out there?' He had nothing to say back about that.
The conversation enraged me. Not only was his delivery wrong but his way of thinking was just ignorant. I started thinking about all of the times that people make those assumptions about us and the feeling that I felt during my early years of playing basketball started rushing back to me.
I modeled at an early age but was constantly told that I HAD to play basketball. As you may have gathered, I am not really big on demands or boxes so I was completely against playing the game. After years and years of people pressuring me, I gave in. Did I find that I loved the game? Yes. Did I start playing because I wanted to? No.
Because I started so late, I was constantly playing catch-up. That combined with the assumption that I had to be good based on my height, resulted in many dark days. The pressure was insurmountable at times. When I think about certain instances, I can still feel it (tearing up as we speak). While I am thankful for my path and learned from every step, that doesn’t negate the fact that I chose basketball because someone else selected it for me.
I say all of that to say this; never pressure anyone to do what you THINK they should do and never put yourself in a box that someone else has created. Regardless of what people think you should do with your height, YOU CAN DO ALL THINGS (Philippians 4:13).
God doesn’t create all tall people to do one thing. He creates us to live out our dreams just like everyone else. He gives us the tools to accomplish exactly what we are placed on this earth to do. If it’s basketball that’s great! But it doesn’t have to be.
Dream, create and live in YOUR purpose. Walk right by the silly people who are staring at their boxes and create a story that has endless possibilities.