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Saving Alicia Jay

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On January 3rd I wrote:

In the past month I have had an urge to share more. I feel like God wants me to expand this blog to talking more about our tall lives than just style. What may seem like a small shift of a couple of paragraphs, is going to do great things inside my life and I pray in those that read them. A resolution that I have is to stretch and become more vulnerable and I refuse to let my fear overcome what I know God wants me to do.

Well, my fear got me yall. It’s January 26th and I have been avoiding this blog like the plague. I have no idea why because what I am about to share is one of the things I am most proud of in my life.

Yes, it may have cost me some so-called friends, it may have caused me immense frustration and it may have been the reason for many of my breakups but it is something that I have known from a young age was meant for one person and one person only.

Yep.

My virginity.

I am a 6’6”, black and white, super single, 34 year old virgin.

No, I am not going to preach to you about how virginity is the only way to go. It’s a personal choice that I made for me and I am just here to tell my story. If you draw anything from it, great! If not, no problemo.

My story of virginity is definitely not the typical media version that you see. Its real, filled with emotion, hormones, close calls and pure love and devotion for someone I haven’t even met yet. This story is what virginity is really like in 2015. And guess what, I am going to write a book all about it.

Now, I have no idea when this book will be finished but I do know that I would like to share the journey with you. It’s something I need to get out on paper and share because look, I am not going to be single forever! God will send me my husband and I need to tell the story of being a virgin while I still am one.

Don’t worry, I will still be posting personal style shots, talking tall fashion and dishing about our tall, fabulous lives but my journey to publishing my first book on real virginity will be intertwined in the thread. Saving myself for marriage is one of the things that makes me stand tall every day and I can’t wait to share my story with each and every one of you.

Ok…let me post this before I lose my nerve. It’s hard to get personal but God told me to and you sure can’t say no to Him!

Black is the New Black

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Long Sleeve Jersey Body - Taller Than Your Average for Long Tall Sally/Midi Skirt (Similar Here) - H&M/Statement Necklace - Forever 21/Boots - Report via Nordstrom/Clutch - Thrifted Photo Credit: Lindsay Carlisle

Long Sleeve Jersey Body - Taller Than Your Average for Long Tall Sally/Midi Skirt (Similar Here) - H&M/Statement Necklace - Forever 21/Boots - Report via Nordstrom/Clutch - Thrifted

Photo Credit: Lindsay Carlisle

I love color but I am a firm believer in the notion, when in doubt go black. Black is a color that is appropriate for any occasion and always creates an instant, chic silhouette. Lord knows you should love your body just the way it is but the fact that it magically slims you down and accentuates our long bodies is enough for me to rock it and rock it often.

Here I paired a tall, clasic bodysuit with a good ol walk in the store and buy it midi skirt from H&M. It has an amazing texture to it that makes it stand out and also has my favorito...pockets! What is not to love?

And then there were the boots...

Don't hate me...

I couldn't find them anymore but you know I will keep my eye out for them or something close. They are thigh high's from Report but as you can see they fit like over the knee boots. We have talked about this before but remember...thigh highs are your friend.

Lastly, you need a little bling to break up the black and bring it all together. Enter the under $20 statement necklace from Forever 21. Ladies, a necklace can make or break an outfit. Choose wisely and don't go expensive. There are plenty of stores that carry great looking, inexpensive pieces that will look just as good as the overpriced jewels of the world.

So next time you don't know what to wear, have absolutely no time to get dressed or just want to rock a haute fit...dig in that closet for your black options and create a black on black look befitting of the queen that you are!

INSIDE OUT

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Some women believe the lie that you must wear as little clothing as possible to be sexy...this is so incredibly far from the truth.

Now, there may be those times where a little dress or short shorts are appropriate (you have seen me and will see me wear both on this blog) but you don't have to show skin to be sexy. Showing the silhouette of your figure underneath chic threads can be one of the sexist statements you could make.

Take this fit. Everything is covered and nothing is tight but I will challenge anyone who tells me it's not hot. It's layers, oversized fit and delicate body chain all create a balanced look that is comfy-haute. The trick is to not go too oversized. If the clothing gets too frumpy you will get totally lost in it. You always, in any situation, want to wear the clothes and neva eva eva eva let them wear you.

More importantly YOU supersede any piece of clothing that you can put on. I don't care how amazing the piece is, if you do not feel good...nothing will look good. Stand tall, embrace everything that makes you beautiful and always shine from the inside out.

The Moment to Begin

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I had a blast bringing the New Year in with my friends but resolutions never end or begin. They are a continual well of discovery, pursuit and accomplishment. Dress - Laundry/Heels - Nine West/Ear Cuff - Candid Art/Clutch - H&M/Rings - Forever 21 Originally posted on the TallSWAG Instagram Photo Credit: Candice Cox

I had a blast bringing the New Year in with my friends but resolutions never end or begin. They are a continual well of discovery, pursuit and accomplishment.

Dress - Laundry/Heels - Nine West/Ear Cuff - Candid Art/Clutch - H&M/Rings - Forever 21

Originally posted on the TallSWAG Instagram

Photo Credit: Candice Cox

I personally don't believe in New Year's resolutions. Why wait? Make your resolutions year round. We continue to evolve, things change every day...so waiting for a single moment, a ball to drop, a toast to give, is not something that I traditionally do.

Is it wrong to make them? Absolutely not. But what we must know is that is doesn't take a ceremony to change your life. You can change it on a Tuesday, at 3:34pm in the middle of August. You have the power to change YOU at any moment. Go after it! Speak it in to existence. Refuse to let it fail.

There are no small resolutions. In the past month I have has an urge to share more. I feel like God wants me to expand this blog to talking more about our tall lives than just style. What  may seem like a small shift of a couple of paragraphs, is going to do great things inside my life and I pray in those that read them. A resolution that I have is to stretch and become more vulnerable and I refuse to let my fear overcome what I know God wants me to do.

I applaud your New Year's resolutions but I urge you to continually look at what you want to do, change and achieve. You are amazing, beautiful, have been given the strength and power to do anything and there is always a moment to begin.

ZIP CODE

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Tall Clean Zip Coat - NEXT/Trendsetter Leggings (36" inseam) - LEL/Dome Satchel - The Limited/Booties (size 12) - Payless

Tall Clean Zip Coat - NEXT/Trendsetter Leggings (36" inseam) - LEL/Dome Satchel - The Limited/Booties (size 12) - Payless

You know that saying, It's all in the details...well...it really is.

Take the Tall Clean Zip Coat from Next. It has a very classic cut but the colorblocking, high collar and buckle detail make it stand out in amazing ways. It's no longer a coat, it's a statement.

I paired it with what seems to be your typical leggings until you get to the knee. The trendsetter legging from LEL has a faux suede detail that brings them to a whole new level.

Lastly the booties (size 12) have patentblocking (I totally just made that up) and a button detail that give them a vintagey feel. 

Moral of the story...look for small things that represent your style and set your look apart from the rest. Details are the frosting on the cupcake my tall friends:)