TALLSWAG

THE HEIGHT

Alicia Jay4 Comments

I love bringing you new and exciting places to shop for haute, tall fashion and today is no different. THE HEIGHT is an emerging tall brand that has this BLUE VELA MAXI available in 63" and 66" lengths. As you can see it is SUPER long. The maxi hits the floor WITH my 4" Rollies on from one of my favorites Smash Shoes (which now carries sizes up to 14). 

While the material of the dress was a little on the thin side, the cut, versatility and price of the maxi and other options on THE HEIGHT are wonderful! This maxi is only $20 and the most expensive piece on their site is only $45! For the prices alone, it's worth checking out the brand.

As if a maxi that is long enough for only $20 isn't enough...I have an exclusive 10% off code just for you:) Use TALLSWAG at checkout for 10% off your entire THE HEIGHT order. This includes new arrivals and sale items (woop woop)! Be sure to order by Midnight on August 9th because that's when the code bids us adieu.

I hope you enjoy these new sites just as much as I enjoy bringing them you. Let me know what you think about THE HEIGHT and rock those tall maxi dresses lovelies!!

Stone Cold

Alicia Jay4 Comments
Denim Jogger (show in 37") - Amalli Talli/Tall Sleeveless Trench Jacket - ASOS/Hat - Hattitude in Las Vegas/Shoes - Vince Camuto (size 12)/Clutch - Thrifted Photo Credit: Joshua Leung

Denim Jogger (show in 37") - Amalli Talli/Tall Sleeveless Trench Jacket - ASOS/Hat - Hattitude in Las Vegas/Shoes - Vince Camuto (size 12)/Clutch - Thrifted

Photo Credit: Joshua Leung

Yes. I know. This is my second post in a row featuring joggers. They are my thing right now. I'm in love...can you blame me? ESPECIALLY when they are amazing joggers like these denim beauties from one of my new tall finds, Amalli Talli.

The joggers are super well made and as you can see LONG! They come in 35" and 37" (which is the length shown in the photos). Besides the length, the other things I love about the AT Joggers are the; hard to find stone wash, cut and ripped details. Unlike some of the other jean joggers I have encountered, they are not too slim. Most of them turn out to be skinny jeans and that is not how a jogger is meant to be worn. These give you room and a polished, slouchy look just like a jogger should. These joggers have made me a fan of the Amalli Talli brand and I can't wait to bring you more pieces from them.

The Tall Sleeveless Trench Jacket from ASOS is amazing as well. It's chic, throw on a long sleeved shirt underneath and you can rock it in fall and winter and the color is almost like a neutral, so you can wear it with almost anything. All of those make it an A in my book!

We obviously know that I love them but what is your take on joggers?

Who Is She?

Alicia Jay5 Comments
Tall Side Lace Up Longline Vest (added bandeau top underneath) - ASOS/Tall Joggers (36" inseam. Similar HERE) - ASOS/Booties - Vince Camuto (size 12)/Clutch - H&M/Bracelet - Forever 21 Photo Credit: Joshua Leung

Tall Side Lace Up Longline Vest (added bandeau top underneath) - ASOS/Tall Joggers (36" inseam. Similar HERE) - ASOS/Booties - Vince Camuto (size 12)/Clutch - H&M/Bracelet - Forever 21

Photo Credit: Joshua Leung

Since my post about my natural hair, I have received so many comments and emails of encouragement. Thank you so much! I still and will always believe that everyone is wonderfully made in every single way but let me tell you...going natural is not easy.

I am starting to love my natural hair but it takes an immense amount of time to care for it. I cannot tell you the time, money and emotion that I have already put into my locs and it hasn't even been a month yet! If anything, the time (especially during the season) will eventually be the reason why I go back into a far more healthy protective style (or cut it off into a haute style) however I am going to give it some more time...I won't give up that easily!

Another thing that is hard for me to adopt is the way that I look in photos. It's not that I don't like what I see, it's that I don't recognize me. I found myself saying...who is she? And really, that is one of the things I am finding on this journey. I am in a place occupationally, emotionally, relationally and physically, where I am really finding who I am and where I want to be. It's something that we all constantly go through, I just happen to be particularly uncomfortable in multiple areas at the current moment. It's okay and in many ways exciting because God always does his best work during these times.

One thing about style that I love, is that it can change your entire mood. You can be going through a lot and slip on one of your favorite pieces and boom...you feel brand new. Clothes don't make you BUT they sure can change your day and these pieces by the ASOS Tall line definitely fit that bill. 

Look how long these joggers are! Tall, chic and comfy...you can't beat that. Joggers are very versatile pants...lightweight for the summer months and can be paired with a blazer or sweater in fall and winter. A pair of joggers should be in every tall girls closet. 

Do we really have to talk about the LongLine Vest!? Insert smiley face with hearts in the eyes here. It's just a beautiful piece. Longer tops are definitely hot right now and the tall cut of this vest hits us just right.

So there you have it. This is where I am and what I am wearing through every moment:) Talk to you soon cutie pies!  

You Are Not a Giant

Alicia Jay8 Comments

There is a new reality show on TLC about tall women entitled, My Giant Life. I applaud both the cast and the network for showcasing the lives of beautiful, Tall women.

With that said, I have to completely disagree with the title. Tall women are NOT giants. Never have been and never will be. While I understand they needed a catchy title to draw people in, including the word GIANT not only goes against the real content of the show itself, it also sets Tall women back in more ways than one. We have been trying to combat this negative descriptor for years and the fact that TLC has included it in the title makes it ok. In my opinion, it gives people permission to use the descriptor.

Now, the literal definition of GIANT (according to Merriam-Webster) is a legendary creature usually thought of as being an extremely large and powerful person. Furthermore, GIANT is defined as a person or thing that is very large, powerful or successful. While the actual definition conveys a somewhat positive picture (although we are clearly Tall and not large) we all know that THIS is the picture that society paints when they hear or say the word GIANT:

Photo courtesy of io9.com

Photo courtesy of io9.com

We will never be this. You are not this and I for one am on a mission to show each and every Tall person on this earth that being Tall is a privilege and anything but the mythical GIANT that so many pinpoint us to be. We are beautiful human beings with a gift. Are there challenges with our gift? Yes. But nothing worth having has ever been easy.

God made you Tall for a reason and don’t let these society imposed descriptions make you feel bad about it for a second. You are not a GIANT or any of the other idiotic words that people pull out of their vocabulary to describe something that quite frankly they want and can never attain. Jealousy spews out in many forms including hurtful words.

In addition, shame on the Today Show (which I grew up on, watch often and love) for falling right in to Tall stereotypes with making 2 members of the cast play 2-on-2 during their interview. Are you kidding me? These women have much more intelligent things to convey in a national interview than taking Kathie Lee and Hoda on in a very uncomfortable display of basketball. I hate to give this any time but I just have to show how unnecessary that part of the segment was.

Tall women are a bevy of things that transcend just being athletes. We can be and do anything and everything we set out to be. Our accomplishments are vast. Please don’t put us in a box.

In no way am I saying that you shouldn't watch this show. I support this cast and their Tall story. What I AM saying is that you ARE NOT A GIANT. I will continue to shout this message from the rooftops and tell the world in every way possible that we are ALL beautiful and can do all things. Together we will break down these GIANT, ugly walls and build beauty.  

Hair Matters

Alicia Jay17 Comments

Many of you know my story but for those of you who don’t, I used to have little to zero self-esteem. There were years where I was bullied and unbelievably depressed. I hated myself, my height and every part of me. I couldn’t see past what my high school world was telling me and believed every lie they told.

As years went on, I found my confidence and fully embraced that God created every single part of me (including my height) for a purpose. That nothing about me was a mistake and ALL of it was wrapped into a one-of-a-kind Alicia that was the only one who could accomplish the purpose that God had chosen for me…

or so I thought…

until it came to one part of me that nobody had seen in years…

my hair.

Yes. The long tresses that you have seen in every photo of me were not mine. I have been wearing a weave for a little under 9 years now. Almost a decade of taking it out and putting it back in because I was afraid to show my real hair.

Afraid! Alicia…how can you tell me to be me and embrace every part of myself when you can’t show the hair that God gave you?

The answer is…I can’t. And that is one of the reasons why I had to take it out. But before we get in to those reasons, let me give you a little back story…

As you can see, both of my beautiful parents gave me curls.

As you can see, both of my beautiful parents gave me curls.

My mother is Caucasian and my father is African American. That usually equates to what society likes to classify as good hair. You know, the perfect curls flowing down your back just throw water on it and leave the house kind of hair. The expectation of my light skin and light eyes matching the texture of my locks was immense. However, my actual texture is very tight and not extremely easy to style and care for. Thus, pressure set in. Not only for my Mom to style it correctly, but also for me to do everything I could to make it appear to be good. This resulted in many unhealthy hairstyles, fights between my Mom, the comb and my hair and ultimately a series of relaxers that killed my follicles. From the age of 4-18, I was in a losing battle with my bad hair.

My Mom and I would battle every day with combing and styling my hair.

My Mom and I would battle every day with combing and styling my hair.

Enter college. I moved from Beaverton, Oregon to Stockton, California where the culture definitely changed. I went from being the darkest kid at my school to being one of the many beautiful skin tones that walked my campus. It was there that I first saw someone wear their hair naturally. It was a concept that never even entered my mind. It was also something I was not ready to do but it was an option I was now aware of.

Enter corporate world. After college, I began my first corporate job. While natural hair was not prohibited, it was clearly not embraced. I found myself wanting the sleek tresses that everyone else had and got my first weave. The positive response was overwhelming not only externally but also internally. I had FINALLY found hair that would act right and I could make look how I always envisioned that my hair should be. It also allowed me to grow out my perm and safely go natural underneath the tracks (which I will touch on later). To me it was a win-win and up until 2 weeks ago was constantly my hair.  

But what I didn’t realize was that during those 9 years I had completely denied an entire part of me that made me, ME. I had a false construct of who I was. The sewed in hair had somehow really become a part of me and boy did it show the moment I took it out without putting it back in…

First appointment after taking out the weave. The curl pattern is trying it's hardest to come out.  About an hour after this photo it puffed back up into a ball of frizz. It will take time and training to uncover and maintain my natural curl.

First appointment after taking out the weave. The curl pattern is trying it's hardest to come out.  About an hour after this photo it puffed back up into a ball of frizz. It will take time and training to uncover and maintain my natural curl.

I cried, sobbed and immediately got depressed. I couldn’t post a picture on social media, refused to go out, felt ugly and the same feelings of low self-esteem that I had in high school started rearing their ugly heads. It was a very surprising and violently visceral reaction to something that wasn’t even mine to begin with.

First photo I posted on IG. It took me 5 days to get the courage up. As you can see, I am still holding on to dead ends in this photo which can slow the growing process down and hinder your natural curl from forming. I later cut those bad boys off.

First photo I posted on IG. It took me 5 days to get the courage up. As you can see, I am still holding on to dead ends in this photo which can slow the growing process down and hinder your natural curl from forming. I later cut those bad boys off.

2 weeks later, I am still embracing it. Worry filled questions enter my mind; Will men like me? Will they still think I am pretty? Will you think I am pretty? Is it going to be hard? Can I maintain natural hair? Do I have the time to maintain it? Will my curl pattern ever come back? What will my curl pattern look like? Will it ever grow? How long will it take to grow? I mean…I could go on for days.

But at the end of the day…it’s just hair people!  Why do we put so much weight into it and furthermore why do we think it makes us who we are?

In addition to tall fashion and life, I will be exploring these feelings on this blog because apparently hair does matter. It matters to me, it matters to society and it matters to you. This natural hair journey is going to teach me far more than just about hair and I feel like it’s a journey that I need to share.

Now, why did I decide to do it? Here are the main reasons…

1. My 10 year old Niece had never really seen her Auntie. She had seen me with someone else’s hair on my head for her entire life. How can I teach her to love every part of herself when she had not seen me love ALL of me?

2. YOU. I truly believe that you were made for a specific purpose and that God made absolutely no mistake while he molded every single part of you. Who am I to tell you the truth when I myself am not living it?

3. Safely Growing out my natural hair under the weave was going nowhere…fast. While I grew out my perm completely, after 10 years my hair should be down to my butt and it wasn’t. My hair was shredding into a bundle of split ends and my edges are thin and completely damaged by heat. It is natural but far from healthy.

This is after the dead ends were cut off. My hair is very damaged and I can't wait to make it healthy again! This is probably the last time you will see it straight in awhile. I can't wait to see what the curls look like now that the dead ends are cut off.

This is after the dead ends were cut off. My hair is very damaged and I can't wait to make it healthy again! This is probably the last time you will see it straight in awhile. I can't wait to see what the curls look like now that the dead ends are cut off.

4. I was in captivity. My weave options where either down or in a ponytail. When the wind hit, I was constantly covering up tracks. I couldn’t itch my scalp. I had to constantly worry about blending the hair that was out with the weave. There was little versatility in the way I could style my hair and so on and so forth. It was time.

Bring on the hairstyles! I have a feeling this bun will be in full effect while I grow out my locks.

Bring on the hairstyles! I have a feeling this bun will be in full effect while I grow out my locks.

5. I want to abolish the construct of good and bad hair that I have adopted from society. Who started that and why did I believe it? I want to make sure I don’t pass that down to my Niece and Lord willing, my future children.

6. Listen Hunni…you know I am waiting for my husband to find me and when he does I want his hands all up in this hair.

With all of that said, I am not speaking for everyone that wears a weave. Do you boo! I am in no way knocking weaves or any other way of styling hair. I plan to explore all kinds of styling from clips, braids, faux locs, wigs and even weave it up on occasion. BUT for me personally, the time of denying my natural hair is over. I am tired of the fight and let her win. She is me and I am her and I am not afraid to show it. I am the master of this journey, am wonderfully made in every way and am now presenting all of me to you, practicing what I preach and loving every part of me from my hair follicles to my toenails.

Let the journey begin! Thanks for crawling, walking, running and sprinting it with me.